Thursday, July 25, 2013

No Gossip for the Discreet

He who conceals a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates intimate friends. Proverbs 17:9

When was the last time someone asked you to keep a secret? How hard was that? When we do as Solomon so wisely wrote—conceal a transgression—we likely are keeping a very dear secret and showing love and compassion through our discreet action. There is never a time that it is necessary to tell someone else’s troubles. If you want to ask other to pray for someone…just say, “I have a friend that needs prayer—God knows the issue, please just lift this individual up to the Lord.” God knows the details and although we need to pray specifically, sometimes being discreet and respectful is better than divulging what could be construed as gossip. Guard your tongue and value your friend’s privacy.

Training Tip – Play that game of “gossip” with your family and share how important it is to keep secrets. Talk about the Proverbs 17:9 verse and what a transgression is—something that someone did that was wrong. It doesn’t make it right talking or “gossiping” about it. If someone wanted everyone to know their problem, they need to tell others themselves. It should not be shared as a topic of casual conversation—then it becomes gossip. Share these verses below with your family on the topic of gossip:

He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not associate with a gossip. Proverbs 20:19
Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things. 1 Timothy 3:11 (This verse is good for men and children as well.) 

Lord God, give us wisdom to know when to hold our tongues and thus not gossip, but to be discreet with information our friends share with us in confidence.
 
Happy Christmas in July!

All scripture quoted from the New American Standard Bible (NASB) unless otherwise noted.
© 2013 by Mickey M. Hunacek. All rights reserved.

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