Monday, May 13, 2013

May 13 – Patience and Tolerance

…with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love…. Ephesians 4:2 

Being patient with children can be challenging, especially while also being humble and gentle— considering their needs and putting them first. When our children are babies it comes naturally to put their needs first and be gentle. As they get older…well, children become more challenging. Their own selfish desires demand your attention. The battle between your own selfish desires and theirs may wage wars—but you are the parent. Take charge with patience and keep your goals in mind. Of course, attaining your goals for your family may mean that you don’t get to do some of the things you want to do…that is the trade off in parenting. You end up with well adjusted, educated children who love the Lord, but you didn’t take that trip to Antarctica or write the book you wanted. Adjust your goals. There is still time in your life to attain some of the things you desire to do.

Where does tolerance fit with patience? Consider some of the actions of two or three year olds. You know that you have to moderate and help them adjust their behavior—but face it. You just have to tolerate some of their actions. You must set boundaries. No tantrums. Them or you! They have to be taught to behave—to mind their manners, but they will have their own personalities, too. Tolerate their idiosyncrasies. As a family, you’ll have to tolerate everyone’s individuality. Just have patience with them as you encourage them to grow. 
 
 “Wide differences of opinion in matters of religious, political, and social belief must exist if conscience and intellect alike are not to be stunted, if there is to be room for healthy growth.” Theodore Roosevelt. 

Training Tip – Set up a time when you can challenge your children’s patience—just like when you go to out for dinner and have to wait and wait and wait. Have them wait in chairs, like they would be waiting to be seated in a restaurant. Then after seating them at the dining table—have them wait for their drinks. The waiting will continue as their food is prepared. This will challenge their patience—but hopefully will teach them wait patiently. Laugh about this—but help them see that they need to be patient with others and situations around them. 

Lord God, thank you for having patience with us and tolerating our individuality. Guide and direct us today that we would be pleasing in your sight and that all we say and do would bring you glory.

All scripture quoted from the New American Standard Bible (NASB) unless otherwise noted.
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